I constantly have these imagined conversations with my parents about, like, feminism and politics and privilege, etc.
I do this even though they live across the country. I don’t have the guts to really talk about these things with them, and even if I did, I wouldn’t know how to bring it up. We’re a loud and demonstrative family, but we don’t really talk about feelings (which obviously my core values are pretty tied up in my feelings). And anytime I’ve tried to broach political or other types of values subjects, it just goes really badly. So I’m left wondering how they would respond if I could ever really explain to them some of the things that now make up my foundational life philosophy and value set.
*hugs* I hear you. I’m lucky with my mom. She’s open to learning. We had a good talk about why the American flag may not mean the same thing to people who were not raised as middle class white girls in the south as it does to her. And she got it. I wouldn’t even be able to open that dialog with my dad. Or rather, I’ve tried in the past to express my non-regressive views in his presence and he just…doesn’t get it. And after a certain point, beating my head on the brick wall of his ignorance just got old.